SUBJECT:
Forgiveness
QUESTION:
How does one forgive the self?
ANSWER:
Not only does God forgive
you when you ask, He helps you to forgive yourself.
1 John
3:19-20
19 And hereby we know that
we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him.
20 For if our heart condemn
us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.
Note:
God is greater than the heart. If your heart (mind)
is not forthcoming with forgiveness, then turn that over to
God too because He is greater than our mind and will
overcome our own lack of forgiveness for ourselves.
Here are some things you
should know about forgiving yourself:
Forgiveness is not a
feeling.
It is a choice that must be
made as a conscious act of the will and has nothing to do
with your feelings. The choice doesn't change your feelings
any more than your feelings nullify the choice. Making the
choice is not the destination. It is only the beginning of
the journey toward healing.
Forgiveness does not undo
the damage or minimize the pain.
It does not sweep the
conduct or the consequences under the rug where they will
trip you up later. Forgiveness involves facing your feelings
and dealing with them directly and honestly. Acknowledge the
anger, the hurt, the guilt, the shame. But because your
feelings will change daily, you must choose to anchor
yourself in God's Word that never changes.
Forgiveness is a product
of God's mercy.
If you feel that you don't
deserve to be forgiven, you're right. Forgiveness is a free
gift from God based on the shed blood of Jesus Christ. Just
as you did nothing to earn the forgiveness that leads to
salvation, you can do nothing to earn forgiveness for your
sin now. You must choose to accept God's forgiveness and you
must choose to forgive yourself. God commands that you do so
(Ephesians 4:31-32).
Ephesians
4:31-32
31 Let all bitterness, and
wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put
away from you, with all malice:
32 And be ye kind one to
another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God
for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
Forgiveness is a command.
God never commands us to do
something without providing a way for us to obey Him. It is
impossible to obey the command to forgive without relying on
God's forgiveness to enable you. Jesus said, "With man this
is impossible, but with God all things are possible"
(Matthew 19:26). In time He will enable you, through the
power of His Holy Spirit, to completely forgive yourself and
anyone else who may have played a part in your abortion
(Philippians 2:13). However, you must first decide to
forgive. If you will allow Him, God will work in you to free
you from the bondage of the guilt, the grief and the shame.
Notice this verse:
1 John
1:3-9
3 That which we have seen
and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have
fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the
Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ.
4 And these things write we
unto you, that your joy may be full.
5 This then is the message
which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God
is light, and in him is no darkness at all.
6 If we say that we have
fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do
not the truth:
7 But if we walk in the
light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with
another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us
from all sin.
8 If we say that we have no
sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
9 If we confess our sins, he
is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse
us from all unrighteousness.
Note:
We take our sins to God, He forgives us and cleanses us from
our unrighteousness. This goes along with what we said
about God having greater power than our heart.
Psalm
32:1-2
1 Blessed is he whose
transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.
2 Blessed is the man unto
whom the LORD imputeth not iniquity, and in whose spirit
there is no guile.
Note:
These verses go for ourselves too. When we forgive
ourselves, God blesses us. He is not the author of guilt
and He does not want us to have the emotion of guilt. Now
notice this:
Philippians 3:13-14
13 Brethren, I count not
myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do,
forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth
unto those things which are before,
14 I press toward the mark
for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
This is key.
We must be constantly moving on in the Salvation process (overcoming
sin, repenting, invoking Godly Principle -Galatians 5:22-23)
and becoming more like Christ (Hebrews 6). This is a
lifelong process. It is one day and one hour at a time but
always moving forward. If we sin, we repent and move one
inch closer to perfection. The idea is to never give up.
God gives us the power through His Holy Spirit. Ask Him for
it in every prayer. |